To all the single parents out there who feel like they are not doing a good enough job, ask yourself this has my child gone to bed tonight fed, warm and content? then you are doing a good job,if your circumstances right now are hindering you in doing this for your child, then seek help or try and come up with a solution to change your circumstances, if you really can’t see a way to feed or keep your child warm, send me a private message, I will help you.
Don’t feel guilty, nobody comes with a parenting manual saying “this is the way to do it”. You are doing your best, that is amazing. You are truly loved even though you’re on your own right now,it is bloody hard sometimes, you are still loved, you are doing the best you can with the knowledge you have right now and that is amazing.
To the people in same-sex relationships that get pissed off because of the way commercial Valentines is portrayed with a man and a woman, just be patient, a little bit longer, the world needs to catch up, you are pioneers of a new generation, instead of getting annoyed by the man, woman thing, how about taking charge and designing your own line of cards for next year, get them sold! There is obviously a gap in the market and they could be a best seller. Go to those restaurants that put the valentines posters up aimed at a man and his woman and explain to them your point of view, they probably have never even thought of it, people need educating we know this. Change takes time and it starts with us.
To all the people who have, had love and are widows,or who are divorced, who now find themselves in a different situation to the one before. Yes it’s hard, today it seems all about happy couples everywhere rubbing it in that you’re on your own now. But do you know what, you have experienced something that a lot of people never experience, you have experienced true love.
Be thankful for that and remember how that felt, it was wonderful and although I know you would love it to be like that right now, one day it could be like that again.
To all the people looking for love and have never found it, yet. Stop looking! that’s it, just stop looking. You are wonderful, you are amazing and there is somebody out there for you. First of all, you need to really love yourself, I know that sounds cliched but there is work to be done. Do that work on yourself, your own personal development and put it out there to the universe the kind of person you would like to meet. The kind of perfect partner, you would love to attract and then let it go, let that shit go, stop letting it consume your whole being because when you do you create a block. When you let it go, that person will come into your life just be open to opportunities.
To the teens who feel fat or ugly, or like you are not normal, for the ones that don’t fit in who feel like they don’t belong. One day darling you’re going to look back at this time and think “oh my God what the fuck was I thinking of” because you’re the ones that are going to be the creatives, the ones who are brilliant ideas people, the ones that have overcome adversity and will go on to do amazing things.
You have compassion, you are full of Love for others and the planet, it’s time some of that love went towards yourself too. Today I want you to do something radical!! I want you to go and look in the mirror and instead of seeing the empty shell of somebody who feels downtrodden and alone, I want you to look at yourself and say I am going to be somebody, I am, I am beautiful, even if you don’t believe it this moment, right now, you are! I’m telling you! you are beautiful.
Beauty doesn’t have to be the outward appearance, the tall, long gorgeous flowing hair magazine type, you are the perfect already.
Inside beauty comes in all sorts of ways, beauty comes from a deep understanding of the world, it comes from a passion for music, it comes from the way you write, it comes from all sorts of things darling.You are full of those things, please believe me. All the things that bother you now, like the freckles, the hair colour, spots, too thin, too fat, too tall, too small etc, those things won’t matter to you as you grow, it just feels painful now because of all the changes and the transfer from child to adult, it’s a mixed up crazy time, just see it as a ride, a rollercoaster to be ridden and the end is coming.
To all the people in relationships that suck right now, if there is abuse involved, its time to leave, if you are going through a bad patch, talk things through. You both know though, when you are flogging a dead horse, why stay together making each other miserable? why not part (as hard as that may seem) and let each other find true love or happiness with someone else?
To all people who don’t feel there are enough or they are not enough to be loved or they are not enough to do wonderful things. You are always enough!! you are alive, you are breathing, you have a body, you are a miracle, did you know that there is 1 in 144,000,000,000,000,000,000 chance of your dads sperm fertilising your mums egg, and then a 1 in 3 chance of you being born alive? Think about that or a second! You are a miracle.
Just how amazing is it, that you are meant to be, you are here to be happy, to live your fullest life, this all starts with you. This starts with inside of you feeling you are enough. Forget all those people have told you throughout your life are stupid, or who think you’re not good enough, do you know what, fuck them! fuck them all, because everybody is enough! Everybody is wonderful and a miracle and I just wish I had a magic wand so everybody could see just how truly amazing they are
On Valentine’s Day we are shown really happy faces about love, it has turned very commercial, buy this, do this, buy cards. Or if you don’t get a card, you not good enough. If you don’t send a card you are not good enough. I used to hate it, I used to really hate Valentines for the commercial aspect, but this year lets embrace the love side of it. If a lot of people can wake up to the love and yes it’s only for one day, if we can wake up to love today, that’s a wonderful thing.
But what we need is to wake up to love every day, it all starts with us, it all starts inside, from now on let’s try every day to love ourselves a little bit more and to love those around us that means something to you, whether that’s our family or friends or just a lovely person that you talk to the greengrocers every day because you got nobody else to talk to you. (I’ve been there) but let’s start with that.
Let’s radiate that, let’s do little kind things for each other, even for people we don’t know. Let’s just radiate love to all, instead of Valentine’s Day, it could be ‘Radiate love day’ and that’s much nicer, just remember you are loved even when you feel like there’s nobody there, even when you feel like there’s nothing you can do, even when you feel at the depths of despair, like ending it all (I’ve been there too). Please don’t, please just know there is somebody that loves you, even if you haven’t met that person yet, it’s aligned in the stars.
Just hold on darling, just hold on for one more day, that’s all you can do and then the next day, hold on for another day and then the next day, hold on for another day and if you can’t manage today, hold on for one hour, change something, get dressed today. Go to the library. Pick a book and sit there in the library, so you’re actually in the company of others, you don’t have to talk to anybody but you’re actually outside doing something, pick up a book and start reading that book, get involved in a different story within the pages and let your imagination take over a while, go for a walk in nature, if there is no nature near by, you could jump on a bus and go to a park, just do something for yourself today to make yourself feel that love. If you can’t do any of those things and you can’t leave the house, run yourself a bath, if you feel disabled and you can’t get in the bath, get a bowl of nice warm water, get some bubbles in it or some herbs and salt and just pop your feet in it, you deserve that, you deserve that today, you deserve that every day. There are always small things you can do to make yourself feel better and to make yourself feel good.
Just know I LOVE YOU! just know you are needed and wanted and loved. Happy Valentine’s Day from me to you.
To all people who don’t feel there are enough or they are not enough to be loved or they are not enough to do wonderful things. You are always enough!! you are alive, you are breathing, you have a body, you are a miracle, did you know that there is 1 in 144,000,000,000,000,000,000 chance of your dads sperm fertilizing your mums egg, and then a 1 in 3 chance of you being born alive? Think about that or a second! You are a miracle.